Is Supporting Other People Your Life’s Work
If you are a parent, a mate, a friend, a manager, a coach, an influencer, or a co-worker, supporting others may be your life’s work. Have you ever taken the perspective that your support adds value to the world we live in and maybe it is a very noble calling?
Some of the emotions that you may experience are love, empathy, generosity, gratitude, acceptance, and purpose. These are all emotions we can experience when our live is not centered on self-gratification and self-promotion, and being egocentric. A narcissist would be the polar opposite of the person we are talking about here.
Contribution Can Be a Life Orientation
We are discussing a life aimed at contribution. The emotions we covered above stimulate happiness brain chemicals. They stimulate dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. It is biological that when we are putting others first, we are fulfilling Nature’s intention. Evolution is based on species working together to perpetuate life and success.
We have passed through a train of thought that said men were better leaders because they were not emotional to a state where women are recognized as great leaders because they are empathetic. It turns out that stakeholders want businesses to be kind, community oriented, environmentally oriented, and customer oriented. People are willing to use their check books to support organizations that are others’ oriented.
This doesn’t mean that we should not put ourselves first. In certain aspects we should. We should put ourselves first in becoming the best person we can become so that we can make the best contribution possible. This highly evolved person is oriented toward health, learning, creativity, and caring. We increase our value by helping others improve their value or their ability to add value.
Is Everyone a Coach?
As an example, coaching or managing. These endeavors are supporting others to become better. A coach could be supporting someone in losing, weight, getting fit, learning a recreation, learning a career skill, or reaching their potential. A parent might be doing the same thing. A CEO is in charge of the Mission, but must also inspire people to see it is in their interest to help and then making it worth their while in terms of pay and life satisfaction.
If you want to consider how to make your life more worthwhile and purposeful, think about how you can make other lives the same. You gain your goals by helping others attain the same goals. More organizations are learning how to help workers thrive because it is self-serving.
If a narcissists goal was to make others feel better, he wouldn’t be a narcissist. Think about that. It is great to want to feel better, but can you gain that feeling by making others feel better first? Recognize the way dopamine works. When we have an interest and intention of making ourselves better like in self-actualizing or in helping others be safe, loved, cared for, more productive, or more efficient, we get a dose of dopamine. If we are engaged in these activities and enter the state of flow, the dopamine keeps us engaged because of the pleasure we feel.
Orient Your Life to Helping Yourself to Help Others
I have four or five main interests that are relevant to the support of others. I believe in self-actualizing with improved health, knowledge, and skills to make a bigger contribution. I believe in sharing information in the media and coaching to help others improve their lives. I live to support my own growth and the growth of others. How satisfying in this? It feels very purposeful.
Consider your orientation, goals, and time management. Who will your success help most? If it supports others first, you will probably be more successful. What does value mean? Kali Kavara, a spiritual leader, offers sessions for learning and calls the fee an exchange of value. She is giving and receiving from people who want what she gives and are willing to pay what they have earned serving others. It becomes a loop of exchanging value for helping others.
Kavara’s work is helping others and she has spent years improving her own self-knowledge, often through painful processes, to understand universal concepts of healing. She lives her life with spiritual standards to give the same gift to others who want the same.
We go to college to learn skills we can then gift to Organizations for an exchange of value. Entrepreneur’s manifest ideas into reality to support the lives of others. They have skills at executing strategies that deliver their vision of what you will enjoy. Consider Musk going from the concept of electric cars to you driving a Tesla.
The more support you throw out into the world, the more wonderful feedback you will receive in return. Some of it will be in love and some will be an exchange of value in the form of compensation. Bezos has a $500 million yacht because people valued what he created for their convenience. Let’s face it, he got rich by saving us the effort of shopping store to store.
You can get rich if you bring people enough value. You can be happy by bringing people the value of your support and caring. You can manifest your destiny through self-improvement and then sharing. Sometimes everything can arrive with a new perspective.
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